Why is he denying everything why doesnt he just be up front with me? Guys and girls advice please?

I dated this guy for almost 2 years and there was no commitment because he told me he wasnt ready. So he started talkin to this girl on myspace so i told him if you start talkin to her on the phone you can forget about me. So I found out he was talkin to her on the phone and told him you made your descion so you can forget about me. He was like oh your gonna feel like an idiot in the end when you see im not getting with her. So its been almost 2 months of not spekaing. I saw the ohter day pics of him and this girl making out but he doenst know i saw them. Two nights ago we spoke on line for the first time and i mentioned the girl asking how are things with you and that girl hes like nothing i havent hung out with her. I was like you dont need to lie i know you hang out with her im okay with it. I'll be happy for you if you met a girl you like. He just keeps saying i keep telling you im not dating her im like ok well hooking up with her what ever it is but no need to lie. Me and him are over and why does he keep denying it? Oh and i told him i wouldnt be hurt by it and i really wont because i basically knew it was going to happen.Why is he denying everything why doesnt he just be up front with me? Guys and girls advice please?
He's lying because you're asking him.





There's two reasons why.





1. He could either think he's keeping his options open by saying 'no'





2 He might think you still care given that you're still contacting him, so he's trying to avoid hurting your feelings and any possible confrontation.





If you don't want him to lie, stop asking him about it. If you're over him, then you've no need to know, have you?





If you genuinely don't have any feelings left for him, leave him be. You're not gaining anything. But by hassling him to ';tell you the truth';, you'll come across as needy and controlling. .





I'm not saying you are those things, i'm just saying that's what your behaviour could be seen as.





And if you're as cool about the split as you say you are, then don't speak to him. It'll take a good amount of time and space before you can be friends properly again but until that time, focus your energies on your own friends and hobbies.





[edit: I've just looked at your previously asked questions and clearly you are not as cool about this split as you claim.





Girl, for crying out loud, 99% of your 56 questions are ALL about this guy and have been for 9 months.





You need to go and speak to someone professional - your behaviour is bordering on obsessive and is not healthy for either of you.





If you're still asking the same questions nine months on then it's time to move on to the professionals. I wish you every luck with that.]





xWhy is he denying everything why doesnt he just be up front with me? Guys and girls advice please?
maybe cuz he doesn't totally want to lose you, even though he already has. he just doesnt know that and maybe when he gets tired of being lonley of fooling around with her he'll come back to you, and thats when you say NO WAY!!!
I think you should just leave him alone. If you seen pictures with your own eyes and asked him about it and is denying it then its not even worth wasting your time. Just let him be and find yourself a new dude. Good luck girlie!
Why didn't you specifically tell him you saw pictures of them making out? Perfect evidence and you didn't use it? Anyway, he's a creep and he's not worth your time. Stop talking to him.
she may dump him and he'll want to come back to you besides, he'll never admit you were right, ever.
he's in denial
Guys have too much pride to let it down.
My dear, you are wasting far too much time even thinking about this. You and he are over, you say. Then LET it be over, quit communicating with this guy and move on with your life!





Good luck!
I can't believe I wasted my time reading that dribble.
He will deny it because it will prove that you are right. I think that you are dedicating too much time on this guy and you should use more time on yourself and on moving on. If he clearly moved on then it would be best and most recommendable that you do the same. You guys were able to not speak for 2 months then you can manage to continue your life without him. If he can go on and hook up with girls on line then let him do just that because if he denied it the first time then he will continue to do it again.





You should count yourself lucky because you found out now and not much later. Besides if he wasn't ready to commit now, then how much longer were you going to have to wait? until he is done partying and dating all kids of girls behind your back?