Ladies and guys, i need your advice?

Im 17 and i have liked this girl for about a year, i have never talked to her or even had a class with her so i doubt she knows who i am, i am friends with some of her friends though





she sits at my lunch table this semester with about 12 other people, she usually sits two or three spots away from me.





how should i approach her? what should i say? i dont want to send her any signals that i like herLadies and guys, i need your advice?
It is normal to feel nervous. I'm 10 yrs older than you so I will offer some insights. You are still young and have shown a lot of interest in 'doing what you feel is right to do for a girl or woman, for that matter'. That shows you're sensitive and concern about the women you want to approach.





You're incredibly infatuated with her. She probably (or does not) know how you feel about her. So you have got to go up and be yourself. Approach her, ask her how her day was. Listen to her words. Be attentive.





You are going to have to learn to shift your attitude and behavior to give off a 'he's nice/he's cool' vibe. Don't ask why... but I will say it's basically because, by doing this, you make her feel comfortable in her shoes. The tricky thing here is, you're not completely being yourself and that is really harsh on you.





So, in a lot of ways, this teaches you something. It tells you that certain behaviors are wanted/unwanted in society. And most people usually appreciate a mature, sincere, and gentleman-like approach. From my point of view, it's acting the way you don't want to act, which in turn, gives off a false image.





But that is a part of growing up. As adults, we have become manipulators... capable of understanding human behavior and infecting everyone around us to believe in things we say or do (think of advertising/marketing agencies.... do we really need to buy into the hype of all of these comestics, male machoism, etc?). You will probably not understand it now but in the future, you will.





The most important rule is to not hold any expectations. Expect nothing, period. If she doesn't like you, then hands off. If she shows interest then take it to another level by asking her out but try not being too aggressive or arrogant (for example: Hey, look at me! I can do this. I'm strong. Yeah, I'm good looking, everyone likes me. etc.).





You will learn that there are certain people you are attracted to and there are those who will be attracted to you (who you may not like). All in all, learn to accept that rejection is typical.. normal... and everyone goes through them. Do not fear it. Accept it. Forgive people who reject you because they are only being honest. And never take it personally.





Once you have learned those basics... then you're ready to grow into a mature adult. Dating is not easy because we have filled people's minds with stereotypes about the opposite sex. In the end... it all boils down to individuality. Treat each woman as an individual and that will earn you a lot of respect. No doubt, it will.





Good luck.Ladies and guys, i need your advice?
Stop asking the same question over and over and just ask her out or at least talk to her and break the ice!
Stop being a coward and let her know how you feel it could be the best thing youve ever done.....