From reading your posting it reads as though both of you have agreed to have a threesome but you do not mention if you have discussed boundaries. Before looking for the third person both of you will need to discuss boundaries and reach an agreement on them. Once you have an understanding of what your boundaries are going to be then you can approach a third person regarding having a threesome.
Regardless of the type of threesome wanting there are a few basic and generic rules you should follow. The first is communicate. By communicating I mean if you feel there is an issue developing do not wait to see if you can handle it or if it is worth even mentioning the rule is mention it. Having a threesome is not deciding what movie to see together. Instead it is something that can be quite enjoyable for the both of you if done right and if done wrong it can be quite destructive which means the onus is on the both of you to discuss issues as they surface. Finally in regard to communication the communication does not end once the threesome ends. Communication continues well after the threesome ended and continues until both of you are comfortable you have worked through the issues.
Another area the both of you will struggle with is seeing each other having sex with someone else. It is one thing to talk about it, talk about how you might feel seeing it, and nothing completely prepares you for it. Therefore it is important that you are prepared for a spectrum of reactions and remember in a threesome situation, unless you have opened up the relationship, sex in a threesome is about physical enjoyment not emotions. For most couples this means creating an emotional distance between the third person and themselves.
Third piece of advice is do not expect to find someone overnight. Generally speaking you can find males who are interested in having a threesome fairly quickly but finding a woman who is interested in a threesome can take some time to find.
If you are serious about having a threesome then my advice to you would be to have your mfm threesome first. Why? As stated above it is easier to find a single male than it is to find a single female. Second you can be selective with a single male due to their numbers and this will give the two of you a chance to develop your communication skills as you discuss the suitability of each male. Third it would give you a chance to have a threesome, understand some of th issues involved in having a threesome, and it will help the both of you understand if this is something you want to pursue. Finally by having an mfm threesome first will ease you into having a threesome whereas having an fmf first may having you deal with issues you are not ready to deal with. Simply put by having an mfm first it will allow you to understand from an emotional and communication perspective what is involved in a threesome due to the fact there are more males willing to participate in a threesome than there are females.
Moving on to what the two of you have planned a fmf first and then an mfm. Though it reads as though the both of you have reached a compromise I am left wonder the practicality of such a decision. When such a decision is reached in the abstract it seems as both of you have received something but the concern is when you move to have the mfm will there be some reluctance to have it? The point that I am trying to make is this, people's preferences changes as they have different experiences and though your plan reads like a compromise I am left to wonder what happens if you someone changes their mind about what has been planned? Will this become a source of conflict between the two of you or have you allowed your agreement to be flexible to change as your needs change?
In any event the main thing is the two of you are discussing this which is great. I wish you success on your journey and hope your threesome is a successful threesome.My wife and I have been discussing having a threesome with another girl...and later another guy. Any advice?
Yeah, yeah, your already past the question of whether or not your gonna do it.......
Dude, im tellin' you right now that there are some things better left to fantasy. I for one LOVE the idea, but the reality of seeing my man make his ';Oh'; face with someone else would really be awful. I would seriously think it through. While I do believe men are capable of having sex for sex's sake, I really don't believe that the same is true for women. Your wife will most likely not take it as well as you think......and you might be surprised at you reaction when you see your wife getting nailed by another dude. Just sayin'......
You have no idea how much you will regret this decision. Marriage should be kept sacred and when its not it slowly deteriorates. If you both want to bring other people in maybe you should think about now being married.
Fred says, ';Well if you insist Fred will sleep with your wife, fred is here to help. Go to ';adult friend finder'; best place to contact Fred and his sexy body';.
You need to make sure that all parties are well aware of each others boundaries, and never cross them.
Go to a swingers' site.
Visit a swinger's club. You don't have to do anything right off the bat. just watch and learn.
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