Please help...guys and girls- advice please?

I have been dating a really great guy for two months, and I really do love him.





When we started dating I was dealing with intimacy issues and really had a hard time opening up to men in a romantic way..I was always very cynical of love and thought that romance was just a setup for future failure, as it could never last. He completely tore down those walls.





He was the most amazing, romantic guy ever: he brought me flowers, quoted love songs, texted me dozens of times a day telling me how beautiful I was and how much he loved me...he brought me to lunch almost daily (even when I insisted that he not), and even asked me about 20 times to quit my job and let him take care of me. It was storybook romance, and every person I knew was in awe just like I was.





About a month ago, however, it started to change. He still tells me daily that he loves me, but the texts/ calls have become just a few daily, no lunches, no flowers..even the tone of his voice towards me has changed...Please help...guys and girls- advice please?
it sounds to me as though he suffering slightly from depression. right now the only thing you can do is be there for him. if he is suffering preasure from work, don't add to it by wnat or ';nagging'; him to romantic with you. there is more to a relationship than that and i'm sure you already know that. he is a guy so he will not openly speak off his feelings the way us girls do.maybe it is time that you do this for him. take him out to a movie to take his mind off work,or even better, just get some alone time light some candles sit infornt of the tv and just talk and cuddle. let him know that you are always going to be there for him no matter what. dumping in the first place wasnt a wise move on your part if this is the way he is feeling. its sounds as though he needs a lot of support right now, so please, give it to him. he obviously loves. i may be hard to see from an insiders point of view, but form an outsiders its as plain as day. just be there for him and let him be aware of it.tell him youre not going to nag him to talk to you, but you still want him to know that whenever he is ready, you'll be ready.


good luck!Please help...guys and girls- advice please?
The romantic part never lasts to the intensity it started. He has now become comfortable. Just let him know that you did appreciate those things he did do early on, and that you would like him to do it again every so often. If he were to do it all the time, wouldn't it lose some of what makes it special?
typical,.. things naturally fade. plus gas prices are outrageeous now. maybe he just cant afford it. you know, it's funny how men allways b!t@# that the women are the ones to change and they never realize how much they change too! if it really bothers you, talk to him, tel him you noticed how his tone of voice changed and you just want to make sure the two of you are still on the same wavelength.
If you all talk on the phone daily, ignore his calls for a couple of days or just make an effort to break your pattern. See how he reacts. It seems like he is passive aggressive. If you do not do what he ask he finds it unattractive. I personally do not care for men like that.
you are in a tough corner. he might be cheating or thinking of it. so u need to keep ur eyes open so u can find out. when there is a fast change and u see it there is a reason. ppl change over time but to just go cold. u ned to be careful!





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Nothing stays ripe forever. Looks like your relationship is moving toward a more mature stage.
I think you cant be that perfect guy everyday you know


buying flowers and all that .. He needs a break





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HE HAS LOST INTEREST IN YOU NOW THAT HE GOT HIS OBJECTIVE HE WANTS TO GET RID OF YOU sorry idk
People become MORE comfortable with one another. Maybe he dosen't Feel like he needs to ao anything any nose.
tell him that your worried that hes changing . ask him why . if he truely loves you he will open up to you and tell you how he feels
He's cheating.
too long to keep me interested
first of all honey all guys r like that at first u cant exspect him to be like that al the time. the newness is gone he is becoming confterble with you he doesnt feel the need to give u all that stuff. and if u really love him all that stuff shouldnt matter right as long as he is still good to u . all guys r different at first my bf is different than at first but i stil love him . but now u r takin a look of the real him and if u dont like the real him u shouldnt be with him simple as that
The ';NEW'; of the relationship has worn off and now you will get to know the real him... He tore down your defenses because he wanted to show you that you can be loved and you are worthy of love...





But now you have to show him the same. Maybe he is feeling like his efforts are not appreciated, or that he is not getting completely threw to you...





Be patient and know that anything worth having is worth working on, and happy happy joy joy is only a myth.
It changes my friend, but that doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Maybe he just doesn't have time to take u lunches or flowers because he is busy at work. It sounds to me like he dedicated a lot of time to you when you first started dating to let you know and see how much he cares for you. But seriously sweetie, he can't do it for the whole relationship, because he has other things to take care of like work... You don't want a broke, jobless bf, do u? Don't let doubts fill your head with things that just aren't true. Don't let doubts ruin this romance...
Sounds like you need a provider type of a guy. Most guys fit into one of two types providers or exciters. The bad boys generally push buttons, good and bad that get girls emotional. These guys keep the relationship exciting but don鈥檛 offer much in the way of stability or romance. Providers (the type that you settle down with) are steady caring and romantic. This guy probably learned how to treat a woman from his mother, she told him to be nice polite and bring her stuff 鈥?that鈥檚 the way to a girls heart. My advice is to spice it up a little. Start doing the opposite of what comes natural to you and that will show him you have two sides to your personality. If you like to stay out late- tell him you want to leave early, if you dress sexy- dress conservative, if you are funny 鈥?be serious, if you are quite - be out going so on and so forth. Good luck
wow. maybe he was just doing that stuff to make sure he had u. i think he may have stopped cuz he knows that u love him and he loves you. he knows that even though he doesnt do all that nice stuff for u anymore he knows that u arent going anywhere. dnt worry too much about it





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Its ok. He had to do that stuff to make you know that he cares and won't screw you over. He just wanted to do everything he could to make you happy so you would know that with him everything would be ok unlike your previous relationships. Just because he stopped doing some of those things does not mean he no longer cares. He still does, he just put the time in where needed when and now that you know how he feels he can start to do things he needs to do while still keeping you.
every guy changes a little when they feel comfortable with you. they think they have to prove themselves at first with all the nice things(and yea they are nice and you may wish they still happen) but if you show him love and ask him to once in a while do something that shows you he still loves you that might help. but you cant expect him to do that every day. he has you and you have him. dont worry about it. and hes probaly not cheating. sometimes ppl do that it may seem like change but if u love him youll love him no matter what.
Maybe hes run out of money(seriously) and afraid to tell you.Unfortunately people have great ideas but find it difficult to keep up with them. Maybe you could joke and say ';What no flowers today?'; then he might tell u whats wrong. And also ask yrself how long do i want him to keep doing this? In reality all romance fades away (usually).He still tells u he loves u so appreciate that and tell him u love him and arrange a romantic date
It is very difficult - The beginning of a relationship is so magical and we get caught up in the romance - although the romance has died down a little more than you would like, at least it has not gone completely.





My partner and I have been together for about 3 months and over the last 4 weeks or so I too have become insecure and feel that he no longer is 'as into me' as he was. He says that he loves me more and more each day, it is just that he is feeling more settled and more comfortable around me now.





My advice to you would be not to wait for him to do all the romantic gestures - perform some of your own and his reaction will tell you everything you need to know.... :D
We all tend to go a little overboard when we first fall in love. It's fairly unreasonable to expect anyone to be able to keep up the kind of attention you are describing AND their usual activities. If you were open with your feelings and issues about intimacy, he may have put extra effort into helping you overcome those problems. Just remember, fairy tales aren't real. ';I love you'; is just as special once a week or 10 times a day so long as it's sincere.





I am a little concerned by ';...the tone of his voice has changed...'; Do you mean like, less over-the-moon sing-songy kind of thing, or has he turned into the sounds of Satan volume 1? Don't let dude be an *** to you, that just ain't cool.
It ended a month ago? So it was just a month of this?


Seems normal. He still there, just cause he doesn't send you flowers anymore doesn't mean it's not going to work or that he doesn't love you. Unless that is the only thing that matters to you. Flowers are a lot of money and maybe he just can't afford it anymore.


Don't expect things from your boyfriend, just appreciate it when he does do those sweet things.


Love isn't how it is in those story books.


Just take it one day at a time and enjoy him. He still called and texts you, be grateful.


Don't expect things from him, gifts are just material things. Who cares and just enjoy him!
well let me see here... first of all that is soo cute... and you wanna know what else fairy tales dont last forever cuz that is how it ended up with me but were still together and hanging... and maybe he doesnt have the money for flowers all the time...and maybe he is busy doing something else and cant call you during those times... so yea ... this might help you...
This is pretty normal. When you first start dating someone, there is a euphoria, much like newlyweds when they get married. The euphoria wore off, which is normal for a month or two into the relationship.





Give the relationship more time, you're only at two months, that's fairly short compared to ';forever.'; Trust that he still feels the same way, but remember, it's hard to come up with new things every few days. Try doing it yourself. You can buy flowers, but how many times can you do that before both of you would appreciate something new? You can quote a love song, but how many songs do you plan to quote? He still tells you he loves you every day, that's something!





If you're really concerned, why not talk to him? But if you do, you'll probably find he's running out of ideas, so maybe you could suggest some new ideas for him.