There are many legitimate reasons to be afraid and it is only natural to fear a new experience. Don't rush into any relationship right away, that is a formula for disaster. Get to know gay people in social situations like community events. Make gay friends on a non relationship basis. Visit gay parts of town not the bars right off. The best way to overcome shyness is to become familiar with the surrounding and culture of gay life. See people as just that other people with fears and hang ups of their own. You will be fine just take things slowly.I think im gay cause i find men attractive but im shy and affraid to be..help what do u guys think any advice?
+look's like you+ have are seriou's problem.I think im gay cause i find men attractive but im shy and affraid to be..help what do u guys think any advice?
Babe I think you need to chill until you are ready to come out, even to just yourself. I do not know how old you are, or what you particular situation is to make you afraid to come out, but some things take time.
I believe you should just go with the flow. Take the time to think, and ask yourself if you are gay or not. Some people have phases they go through before they realize they are completely gay. Some dart back and forth, from gay and back to straight.
Just do whatever feels comfortable to you. And don't be afraid of what is unknown to you. All will be clear eventually.
Before you rush to conclusions educate yourself on the issue.
Here is what the American Psychological Association states about Homosexuality (The APA is currently the World's leading Authority in the Field of Psychology).
http://www.apa.org/topics/orientation.ht...
Is Sexual Orientation a Choice?
No, human beings can not choose to be either gay or straight. Sexual orientation emerges for most people in early adolescence without any prior sexual experience. Although we can choose whether to act on our feelings, psychologists do not consider sexual orientation to be a conscious choice that can be voluntarily changed.
Can Therapy Change Sexual Orientation?
No. Even though most homosexuals live successful, happy lives, some homosexual or bisexual people may seek to change their sexual orientation through therapy, sometimes pressured by the influence of family members or religious groups to try and do so. The reality is that homosexuality is not an illness. It does not require treatment and is not changeable.
However, not all gay, lesbian, and bisexual people who seek assistance from a mental health professional want to change their sexual orientation. Gay, lesbian, and bisexual people may seek psychological help with the coming out process or for strategies to deal with prejudice, but most go into therapy for the same reasons and life issues that bring straight people to mental health professionals.
What About So-Called ';Conversion Therapies';?
Some therapists who undertake so-called conversion therapy report that they have been able to change their clients' sexual orientation from homosexual to heterosexual. Close scrutiny of these reports however show several factors that cast doubt on their claims. For example, many of the claims come from organizations with an ideological perspective which condemns homosexuality. Furthermore, their claims are poorly documented. For example, treatment outcome is not followed and reported overtime as would be the standard to test the validity of any mental health intervention.
The American Psychological Association is concerned about such therapies and their potential harm to patients. In 1997, the Association's Council of Representatives passed a resolution reaffirming psychology's opposition to homophobia in treatment and spelling out a client's right to unbiased treatment and self-determination. Any person who enters into therapy to deal with issues of sexual orientation has a right to expect that such therapy would take place in a professionally neutral environment absent of any social bias.
Is Homosexuality a Mental Illness or Emotional Problem?
No. Psychologists, psychiatrists and other mental health professionals agree that homosexuality is not an illness, mental disorder or an emotional problem. Over 35 years of objective, well-designed scientific research has shown that homosexuality, in and itself, is not associated with mental disorders or emotional or social problems. Homosexuality was once thought to be a mental illness because mental health professionals and society had biased information. In the past the studies of gay, lesbian and bisexual people involved only those in therapy, thus biasing the resulting conclusions. When researchers examined data about these people who were not in therapy, the idea that homosexuality was a mental illness was quickly found to be untrue.
In 1973 the American Psychiatric Association confirmed the importance of the new, better designed research and removed homosexuality from the official manual that lists mental and emotional disorders. Two years later, the American Psychological Association passed a resolution supporting the removal. For more than 25 years, both associations have urged all mental health professionals to help dispel the stigma of mental illness that some people still associate with homosexual orientation.
---- Homosexuality is also commonplace in Nature and therefore perfectly natural. (From the University of Olso)
http://www.news-medical.net/?id=20718...
';One fundamental premise in social debates has been that homosexuality is unnatural. This premise is wrong. Homosexuality is both common and highly essential in the lives of a number of species,';
Homosexual behavior has been observed in 1,500 animal species.
';We're talking about everything from mammals to crabs and worms.
';To turn the approach on its head: No species has been found in which homosexual behavior has not been shown to exist, with the exception of species that never have sex at all, such as sea urchins and aphis. Moreover, a part of the animal kingdom is hermaphroditic, truly bisexual. For them, homosexuality is not an issue.';
------ In the past people used to think that God hates Black people also, and that Blacks are abominations.... So many beliefs that come out of religion are wrong.
I don't think your gay. Your just observant that your not the only ';good looking'; fella out there. The other guy is just there as a reminder that you should look your best! Seriously though, my words fall to deaf ears and I rather show you what God says, ';For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.'; Ephesians 6:12
';Wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men, from men whose words are perverse...whose paths are crooked and who are devious in their ways. Proverbs 2:12;15
';Furthermore, since they did not think it worth while to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done.'; Romans 1:28
';Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of suffering.'; 1 Peter 5:8
So with loving kindness I say to you, please don't subject yourself to these thoughts. I prayed for you. Hugs.
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