Friday, January 8, 2010

Advice needed please, guys and gals!?

I've just started Uni and there's a really good looking guy who goes to my Aikido club, he is slightly older (don't worry I'm 18) and I really want to talk to him. He seems really quite reserved to be honest, and doesn't talk much, but I just want to get to know him!





Trouble is, I'm lacking greatly in confidence! And I just feel I'm not even going to have any chance, so I think what's the point.





So therefore, just looking for tips and advice about building up confidence and self-esteem as I haven't even spoken to this guy yet and already I'm writing myself off.Advice needed please, guys and gals!?
Just don't be afraid to get your feet wet! that's all. You're not lacking confidence... you're normal... just a little unsure of your man-wooing skills. Just like we all are in the beginning. Don't write yourself off, chica. You'll get more confident over time. The important thing is to just make a move. Just try it. Even if it's something small like sitting next to him and striking up a conversation. I promise you'll be fine. And if he doesn't click with you right off the bat or if you make a complete fool of yourself don't sweat it. You'll have years and years to practice and there'll be lots of men who cross your path.Advice needed please, guys and gals!?
Take a self-esteem course.
Don't even worry about it! It is much better to try and fail then to never try at all. Just take a deep breath, walk over to him and say hi, you are both at the club...so there is your common ground right there. The rest is up to fate.
Bite the bullet and ask him to go for a coffee or something with you. If he seems shy too, he'll probably jump at the chance. Get in there before someone else does.
Well personally I would try to find some excuse to talk to him. Try and sit by him and just ask him questions about the club, but don't seem to desperate.
I would try making casual conversation with him first. Try talking about something that has to do with you club your both in since you know he has to be interested in that since he takes that class. You have better chances of getting to know him if you are honest with him also! =]
How old is he? Age is just a number. You could strike up small talk..ask him how he is doing..look for wedding ring etc. It all starts with a smile sweety.
Let somebody in the club introduce you to him
Aww just go talk to him
You really need to work on your self-confidence and then talk to him.
I would say that you strike up a conversation with him about your Aikido. You already have something in common so that is a good starting point. This way you won't feel intimidated or too self-conscious since you are familiar with the subject.





Good luck!
smile at him first...and when he looks at you and smiles back, then go up and talk to him...just something casual like about that club the both of you are in or something...
TALK TO THIS GUY , DO NT GET HELD UP IN MAY BE . HE MAY BE IN A RELATIONSHIP OR YOU MAY FIND YOUR SELF IN ONE ? WHATS THE WORST REJECTION? BETTER REJECTION AND MOVE ON THAN SECLUSION AND PERPETUAL DELUSION
Use aikido as a common bond...Strike up a conversation about how he got into it, then say how you got into it. Who knows, you said he seems shy and maybe hes just waiting for you to make the first move. The fear of rejection can be crippling, I know. But youve gotta try.
go up and say hi. it's really hard but works
CAFES AND COFFEES
Try to give hints tyo him to let him know that you like him. You can do alot to bulid up your self-esteem, go to the mall and buy the lastest clothes and dress up every day go to the nails shop just spend all of your money on you if that makes you feel better than do it
BELEVIE IN YOUR SELF!
be yourself about him smile a little look at him see how he responds.
I just went over and sat in my boyfriends lap when I first saw him.It's been seven years and we're still together.


Just be youself, if he likes you great, if not well you tried.
One think remember Loves doesn't END!


So, talk with frankly don't shai!


%26amp; PREY TO LOVE GOD!
OMG I think when ppl say I need More confidence or self esteem is dumb. Confidence self esteem ect is not something u need more, is something u have or u don't have, it's an on and off switch. For example their are days that u look good and feel good and u have alot of confidence that makes u walk sexy, talk sexy, ect, then their are days u feel ugly and the switch is off. If u go out with ur freinds and u look and feel good and u see the guys responding to u, (you will say wow I'm having a good time), but if u feel like sh*th you will say (likes get out of here this is so gay.) If u look good dress good talk good that switch will be on babyyyyyyy.

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